Every Relationship is Different, Continued...
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So just being in another relationship changes you. And you are different because your new partner is different. And therefore, the issues that broke up the last relationship, were always totally different to all previous relationships.
But, if you have a repeating theme, from one relationship to the next, then look into this, because it is most probably your issue. Like for me, I always meet toxic women that were surrounded by drama, and why was that my issue, because I had self-love issues, and I was toxic myself, so this is why I drew in toxic women. At the time, I just thought I was bad at picking relationships.
Now importantly, if your partner is not making time available, as in to spend time with you, then this is an issue. Look sometimes this will happen, but if there are always other dramas he/she is dealing with, or they suddenly become a night owl and start staying up late, or just start making other excuses not to come to bed with you. Honestly start looking at the relationship, it may have ended already, and your just stuck living together.
For example, if you are with a girl, and she starts bringing the kids to bed, or will go and sleep with the kids. If the girl always has other stuff going on, and she is not sure about the relationship, she is just being smart, and taking away for opportunities to be together. She may only be there for the money, who knows, maybe she has just non-relationship issues on her mind, or is already talking to her next husband on her mobile. You’re not going to know what is going on, until later. Males can do this too, but maybe they will do so in different ways, like they may make excuses to always be in the “man cave”, or have their friends over a lot.
So to be honest, and to put some dirt on myself, my issue these many, many years was self-love, and this was why I was always over sexed, because this is how I demanded love, because I didn’t have self-love, because I didn’t love me, so I demanded love from another to fill the emotional holes in myself, and this was for a male, done through sex, and I believed that I needed sex, and it did make me feel like a whole person, when I got it. This book is me getting over that part of my life. I guess other people get this love, and try and fill their emotional holes though many different ways, in which it all boils down into getting attention from others in some way, like sex. Other ways including creating drama, addicted to wining, fame, acting sick, or being a mater (ie. getting people to feel sorry for you), and any other way that all designed for you to get attention from others.
In conclusion, I believe the point is, the partner’s tolerance for you, has a little to do with how well you are ticking their boxes, and the same vice versa with you. And if your relationship boxes, are not being ticked, then you are going to feel used, and you won’t tolerate them like you would, from someone that does tick your boxes. So when you meet a potential partner, make sure they tick your boxes. And the more spiritual you are, the less boxes you will have that need ticking, and the more you will see it’s about vibrational compatibility.
But, if you have a repeating theme, from one relationship to the next, then look into this, because it is most probably your issue. Like for me, I always meet toxic women that were surrounded by drama, and why was that my issue, because I had self-love issues, and I was toxic myself, so this is why I drew in toxic women. At the time, I just thought I was bad at picking relationships.
Now importantly, if your partner is not making time available, as in to spend time with you, then this is an issue. Look sometimes this will happen, but if there are always other dramas he/she is dealing with, or they suddenly become a night owl and start staying up late, or just start making other excuses not to come to bed with you. Honestly start looking at the relationship, it may have ended already, and your just stuck living together.
For example, if you are with a girl, and she starts bringing the kids to bed, or will go and sleep with the kids. If the girl always has other stuff going on, and she is not sure about the relationship, she is just being smart, and taking away for opportunities to be together. She may only be there for the money, who knows, maybe she has just non-relationship issues on her mind, or is already talking to her next husband on her mobile. You’re not going to know what is going on, until later. Males can do this too, but maybe they will do so in different ways, like they may make excuses to always be in the “man cave”, or have their friends over a lot.
So to be honest, and to put some dirt on myself, my issue these many, many years was self-love, and this was why I was always over sexed, because this is how I demanded love, because I didn’t have self-love, because I didn’t love me, so I demanded love from another to fill the emotional holes in myself, and this was for a male, done through sex, and I believed that I needed sex, and it did make me feel like a whole person, when I got it. This book is me getting over that part of my life. I guess other people get this love, and try and fill their emotional holes though many different ways, in which it all boils down into getting attention from others in some way, like sex. Other ways including creating drama, addicted to wining, fame, acting sick, or being a mater (ie. getting people to feel sorry for you), and any other way that all designed for you to get attention from others.
In conclusion, I believe the point is, the partner’s tolerance for you, has a little to do with how well you are ticking their boxes, and the same vice versa with you. And if your relationship boxes, are not being ticked, then you are going to feel used, and you won’t tolerate them like you would, from someone that does tick your boxes. So when you meet a potential partner, make sure they tick your boxes. And the more spiritual you are, the less boxes you will have that need ticking, and the more you will see it’s about vibrational compatibility.
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